Blog #8 There are three parts to this blog. Please respond to all three parts, A, B and C.
A: In chapter 7, Carol acknowledged that it is hard to care. She gives several reasons. Which reason is most validating to you, and why? If you don't really connect to any of Carol's reasons, explain what you believe your "reason" is.
I think one of Carol’s reasons that was most validating to me was “It’s hard to care because…to make the world better for a child whose world is out of control.” It’s not that it will be hard to care; the problem is it will be hard to not care. When I taught pre-school I had a student that I suspected was being abused. I told the Head Mistress my suspicions and why, she told me that with no hard evidence there was nothing she could do. I cried for that child. Both in field last semester and visiting my intern school a few weeks ago, there were students that had just lost parents. At times you could see the pain in their eyes. I could tell when they were thinking about their mom or dad. I only knew this one girl for three weeks and this boy for one day but even now as I think about them I tear up. I know I will have to come up with copying mechanisms so I don’t take these feelings home with me. A few years ago I subbed as a tech. in a self contained class of 4th-6th graders that had anger issues. I found out that several of the students lived in either foster care or group homes. I never would have known that this was a special class because I never saw any of those problems. What I did see was an amazing teacher that was strict, had high expectations for her students, and I could tell she cared about each and every one of those children. The only thing I can do or that I have control of is to love my students unconditionally and make my classroom a safe, stable and enjoyable environment with multiple ways to succeed.
B: Carol offers two final metaphors, what I call the "McNurlty Metaphor" and the "London Metaphor." Which one do you connect with most, and why?
I really liked the McNurlty Metaphor. We have all seen teachers that love what they do and teachers that either hate what they do or are just plain burned out. It is not hard to tell the difference between the two types of teachers. One teacher’s classroom is full of life and color. She will have students’ work decorating the classroom; there will be posters or artifacts around the room that represent the diversity of her students. The students will be working in collaborative teams. You may find her outside during recess, playing a game of four square or basketball with not just her students but students from other classrooms. She always has a smile on her face. Whereas, in the other teachers classroom the students are working independently, all on the same worksheet. The bulletin boards have hardly anything on them, and her other team members may avoid her.
Two people could be working on the exact same project; with the same materials but if one person is excited about and loves the project, she is going to end up with very different results than the person that does the project just because they have too. I also make an amazing spaghetti sauce but some nights it just isn’t as good. When I think about my family and how much they would love to have spaghetti for dinner and how much I love them, my sauce is actually better than when I get home from work or school and think I have to study, what would be the fastest thing to make for dinner tonight. The same holds true for teaching. Children are smart, they can tell if you want to be there or not, they know if you’re being sincere and they will respond accordingly. Three years ago I subbed for a teacher that was working on her ESL endorsement so I subbed her class once or twice a month (some times more if she was sick or on vacation) she also had one other sub that worked for her. On my last day of subbing one of the “trouble maker” boys came up to me and said “Mrs. Hughes you are my favorite sub ever.” I responded by saying “Thank you; this has been a wonderful class to work for.” He said “Don’t you want to know why?” That did peek my interest so I of course said “Actually, I do want to know.” He said “Because you wouldn’t let me get away with anything.” I’m sure the other sub didn’t let him get away with things either or maybe she did, but this student could tell that I truly cared about each one of them. I will never forget that class of students. They showed me how much I wanted to be a full time teacher and to trust in myself.
C: Read one or two blog responses from two or three of your classmates. Then, please give a brief message of encouragement to one of your classmates based on your reaction to their response that you read. Leave your message of encouragement on their blog as a comment (at the end of the particular blog your are responding to). Copy your message of encouragement and paste it into YOUR blog, telling me who you are responding to.
I responded to Shellie Gray.
I too liked the idea of celebrating success by calling each of the students parents to let them know how wonderful their child is doing. I think that if we get in a habit of calling for good things, we develop a relationship of trust with the parents so if we do need to make a call on a negative issue we all will be able to speak openly and honestly on how to best help the student. I plan on keeping a three ring binder with a section for each student. In this binder I can keep track of who has shared in morning meeting or for show and tell, whose parents I have called, who has gotten to be note keeper on our class web site and I can also keep track of all their accomplishments throughout the year. This will also make it easier to write about them for the class book, like the one Dr. P showed us in class where there was a picture of each student and the “teacher likes me best because”. Wasn’t that wonderful? I really want to make one of those books for each of my students.
Shelly, I have really enjoyed getting to know you this term. You are going to be a wonderful teacher. I can tell you already love your students even though you haven’t met them yet. Keep up the good work.
